How to Own Your Broken-heart and not Blame the Other Person
What part did you play in having your heart broken?
Our feelings and emotions are our own. When someone doesn’t satisfy our emotions in the manner, we hoped they would, that’s not their fault. Blind hope — is the culprit.
It’s up to each individual to protect their own heart. If you give yourself emotionally before knowing that the person is worthy, you have no one to blame yourself. Even after learning their worth, it’s your responsibility to keep watch over your emotions.
You allow people entry into your life. It’s important to learn the character of that person and what you both “stand in need” of before deciding to enter into a relationship.
You’re both individuals — each responsible for your own emotions. It’s not reasonable to give yourself emotionally without knowing that the other person is on the same page and has a mutual willingness to engage themselves emotionally.
Each of you is responsible for keeping watch over your emotions daily; for performing checks and balances on your emotions. Periodically check to determine where you both stand. Ask questions of one another to make that determination — don’t just assume.
Emotions are erratic. People change. When one party departs from the relationship, the other is left to deal with — their emotions. Emotions they allowed to develop along the way. Can you really blame another person for not living up to what you hoped for? Consequently, should you hate them or be angry at them as a result?
It’s one thing for a person to deceive you into believing that they cared; however, even in a case of that nature, it’s was incumbent upon you to monitor your own emotions, to analyze and evaluate the relationship daily.
Actions speak louder than words. When a person’s actions don’t line up with what they are saying, that’s a red flag to take note of.
Relationships are based on more than a person’s emotions. One needs to use thinking skills to evaluate a situation.
Skills such as:
- reasoning
- common sense
- observation
- analyzing
- inquiry
- reflection
- examining, etc.
It’s unreasonable to “blindly” allow yourself to fall emotionally head over hills, then blame the other person for not being your safety net. It’s your responsibility to monitor your emotions, to determine how deeply you desire to engage them.
A person can be a compassionate, empathic, benevolent, humane being; however, it doesn’t mean they’re responsible for satisfying you emotionally. How far one allows themselves to commit their emotions is their choice.