How to Raise Your Self-esteem
Stand your ground!
It’s a constant battle to develop and maintain positive self-esteem. You — confidently being assured regarding who you are is a “powerful weapon” in the battle against being belittled.
When a significant other or anyone belittles or criticizes your character, the effect can impact your psyche. When belittled frequently, eventually, you might start to believe the belittling words — represent who you are.
Psychic warfare
Psychic warfare results from a constant battle against an opponent’s belittling words used to attack your psyche.
The psyche is often vulnerable to criticism. If you look in the mirror and perceive yourself as ugly, in all likelihood, you will believe the mirror image. Simultaneously, your psyche and subconscious will claim your perception. When someone is constantly degrading you with derogatory words, it has the same effect as the mirror image. Why? — because you believed it.
We care about how others view us. When others voice positive thoughts regarding our character, we tend to feel good about ourselves based on their perception. On the contrary, they not thinking positive thoughts about us, and voicing it, has the opposite effect.
So how do you maintain positive self-esteem amid the opposition?
Know yourself
Define yourself. Don’t allow other people to define you. Who do you know yourself to be?
It’s important to stand your ground in regards to — knowing who you are. Being able to define yourself is powerful ammunition that can be used to battle and defeat the opposition.
For example
If someone constantly belittles you as stupid, which is contrary to how you perceive yourself, speak your truth without hesitation! Confidently assert the contrary.
For example, — I beg to differ with you — I perceive myself as highly intelligent! Your degrading words don’t define me. That’s how you perceive me; that’s not who I am!
Don’t “own” other people’s thoughts about you. Dispell them.
It can be a challenge to lift yourself amid being degraded by others, especially when you’re constantly bombarded with disparaging words being thrown at your psyche — like darts. It can be psychologically overwhelming.
The thing is — you don’t have control over other people’s perceptions, beliefs, or mean-spiritedness. People act and react for various reasons. Words can be directed toward you out of anger, dislike, jealousy, envy, or a person’s personal beliefs. Formidable owning who you are against those obstacles is your best defense.
Don’t believe the hype. If you claim another person's untrue validation of your character, it’s confirmation that you don’t know who you are.
If someone directs something towards you that is valid, change that truth. Work on improving your character.
You develop your self-esteem. Other people’s words can brush up against your self-esteem; however, the brush only has control over your self-esteem if you allow it to have entry.
Don’t believe the hype others spew out regarding your character — if it’s not your truth— stand your ground.